Tuesday, December 11, 2012

We have to what?!!!

It is no secret that adoption isn't easy.  It isn't easy for the birth family or the adoptive family.

That being said, the question is, is adoption the right thing to do?  Here are some indicators as to why adoption is WONDERFUL:

  • Teens who were adopted at birth are more likely than children born into intact families to live with two parents in a middle-class family.
  • Adopted children score higher than their middle-class counterparts on indicators of school performance, social competency, optimism and volunteerism.
  • Adopted adolescents generally are less depressed than children of single parents and less involved in alcohol abuse, vandalism, group fighting, police trouble, weapon use and theft.
  • Adopted adolescents score higher than children of single parents on self-esteem, confidence in their own judgment, self-directedness, positive view of others and feelings of security within their families.
  • On health measures, adopted children and children of intact families share similarly high scores, and both those groups score significantly higher than children raised by single parents.
  • Seven percent of children adopted in infancy repeated a grade, while 12 percent of children living with both biological parents repeated a grade.
  • Compared with the general child population, children placed with adoptive couples are better off economically. (http://adoption-beyond.org/adoption-statistics/)

So now that we can see that adoption IS beneficial to the child, I would like to tell you why I think that is all true.

This takes me to my title.  "We have to do what?!"  Just so you know, babies are not handed out on some assembly line.  After contacting an agency  the adoptive parents fill out form after form, giving social histories, family dynamics, salary info, background info, dates, places, people, interests, hobbies, and so on and so forth.  We have to get two separate background checks, and have a social worker come to our home for two to three hours, asking us questions, making sure we are happy and healthy, that our house is safe and secure. We need to have fire extinguishers, electric plug covers, stair gates, screens in all the windows, locks, dangerous items out of reach, etc, etc. We have deadlines and fees.  We have to have others write letters about whether or not we will be good parents...

...All to be able to bring our sweet bundle home.
It can be very stressful. 


You want to know why adopted kids do so well?  Because when a baby is adopted, it is not only desperately wanted, the family he/she will be going to will 99% of the time be a well adjusted, middle class or rich family who will be able to provide ALL that the child needs and most of what that child desires.  They will come to a safe, loving environment with all the protections and opportunities a child could ever need.

If only every baby came into the world with such great prospects.  
The world would definitely be a better place.

Flavio and I just finished the last of our paper work and sent it off. 


Now we wait to see if we get approved.

Lots of love,


  1. It's a fantastic feeling to adopt. You feel SO much love already for a child that may or may not even be born or is yet a part of your family.

    What an awesome experience.

  2. Those are some awesome stats, and they totally make sense. I know it may not be someone's first choice as a way to have kids, but it sure is a great way. :)

  3. Imagine what the world would be like if all people had to go through that kind of screening before they were allowed to become a parent.....